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Solution Lady: Separating and Letting Go


Solution Lady: Separating and Letting Go


Mental Health: Take Steps to Let Go of Your Marriage and Move on after Divorce


By LINDA ROBERT

    Once you separate from someone your life as you knew it is over. You are now a different person. Let go of the life you had  grieve it cause you must, redesign yourself and start living your new life. Anything that you desire and want in your life. If what you desire and want is meant for you it will find it's way back home.

This is not to suggest that you deny yourself your desires nor does it suggest you give up on your wants. Its merely means give your desires away to your higher self and the rest will take care of itself.


Emotions attached to events:
Emotions can affect your mood, your way of thinking and your beliefs. Express your emotions, then let go of them so that they do not use up energy that will be used to further your self in a new way.

Expectations: 
When we have expectations of a given situation involving other people  we place unnecessary  pressure on them and on ourselves. We quickly learn that we can’t control the outcome we can only control our selves. When we go into a situation with no expectations whatever happens as a result is simply bonus.

Guilt and Shame: 
You respond to situations the only way you know how. Guilt and shame come in when we think we should be different than what we are. We are who we are. Love you and accept you unconditionally.     


Linda G. Robert M.A., M.Ed., is known as The Solution Lady for personal, self-care, wellness and life solutions. She's worked in the mental health field and education field for several years as well as in law enforcement. Find out more about her at www.lindarobert.ca. Check out her newest booklet at http://www.myarticles.thesolutionlady.com/index.html.




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