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Don't Get Married Again Until You Do These 5 Things


Don't Get Married Again Until You Do These 5 Things


Top Five Must Do's Before Saying I Do Again


By LINDA ROBERT

   If I were ever to consider remarrying, I’d have to:   

1. Be me.
I have to know who I am and what my interests are. I need to be happy with who I am and where I’m at before I commit myself with someone. Its one thing to live with me and be happy and a completely different thing to live with someone else.        


2. Be honest.
I have to feel comfortable to speak the truth to my partner, express my needs, my wants and my desires without fears. I need my space as much as he’ll need his. If this isn’t communicated and respected, it won’t work for me. I also have to be honest with what I want and what’s good for me. If its not good for me, am I honest enough to accept it and to communicate it?   

3. Balance my guts, my heart and my head.
I have to pay attention to my heart and keep the head in check, too. I have to take time off when my gut is telling me to do so.   

4. Take my time.
I’ve learned in the last few years, that’s there’s no rush for anything. Anything worth something to me is definitely worth waiting for. I’m now able to wait for what I want and to live my life while waiting.   

5. Face my fears.
I can take an honest look at my fears, acknowledge them and be able to take care of them on my own and not depend on my partner to do so for me. Although I’d love him to take care of everything, I accept the fact that those insecurities belong to me, and that I will work them through with his support.  


Linda G. Robert M.A., M.Ed., is known as The Solution Lady for personal, self-care, wellness and life solutions. She's worked in the mental health field and education field for several years as well as in law enforcement. Find out more about her at www.lindarobert.ca. Check out her newest booklet at http://www.myarticles.thesolutionlady.com/index.html.




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