Marriage Answers in Astrology

URANUS IN THE 7TH HOUSE  

What may mean divorce in one chart might not necessarily mean it another, according to astrologers. “There are so many different possibilities, so it really depends on each unique chart,” Bartlett said. But there are some that commonly arise. One indicator often mentioned is Uranus. Bartlett said that Uranus-Moon aspects – with aspect referring to the angle between the celestial bodies – reveal someone who is unreliable in relationships. The moon is by nature nurturing, she said, and Uranus is “radical and unstable.”


Luc De Jaeger, who owns Belgium-based Cosmic Technologies and addresses divorce horoscopes on the site, said there are signs in the horoscope that can point to a propensity for divorce and one of those is Uranus. “The most important factor is a very strong or predominant Uranus in the natal chart,” he said. “Uranus always wants to break free, break out and cannot stand to be pinned down in formalities, as a marriage. Also, Uranus and Pluto in the 7th house are marriage wreckers.”           

In an answer to a reader at Allexperts.com, Stein mentions Uranus as a potential indicator as well when it is related to the 7th House. But he stresses that much depends on the reason for divorce. “The reasons for divorce are many and varied and they depend on the individual,” he said. “What shows divorce for one person may not for another. One couple might break up for financial reasons, another because of the kids, and another because they’re not compatible. There’s no one set of factors that are universal.”                  


SATURN AND THE 7TH HOUSE              

Depending on when a person was born, Shaw said, Saturn – the planet she believes disrupted her marriage in 1990 – may eventually hit their 7th house. Saturn is on a roughly 30-year cycle and when it does hit, she said, it can last 2-1/2 years. That is the hardest, most challenging aspect to the marriage house. You will be under the threat of divorce,” she said. “I’ve told people to hang in there and then had them call me back to say, I did what you told me and we’re better than ever. A lot of times, if you know it‘s coming, it helps.”            

Saturn forces people to learn a lesson, Shaw said. It shakes up lives and forces a person to either let go or strengthen their relationships.  “If you’re in the wrong marriage or with the wrong person, it will break it apart,” she said. “Saturn makes you firm up relationships. If there are any problems, it makes you deal with them. If it is meant to end, it will. If not, it will grow stronger. And if you pass all the tests, you will come to a new point in your marriage.” But once you learn the lesson, Saturn always brings a reward, she said.            

“The end result is always positive,” she said. De Jaeger also mentions Saturn in the 7th house in his discussion of divorce horoscopes at Cosmic Technologies, saying that it points to “problems, delays, frictions and challenges.”            

He, too, advises waiting until Saturn passes. Stein also points to a long period of Saturn going back and forth in the 7th house as a possible indicator when a person reaches a “point where the frustration level gets to the critical point and they want out.”  



NOT ALWAYS MEANT TO BE              

Not all relationships are meant to last, Shaw said. Sometimes they come along to teach us about love or self esteem or to bring children into the world. “Once karma is finished, the marriage is done,” she said. “We draw partners to us for what our souls need. Sometimes people come into our lives to learn something about ourselves.”            

She said she’s often asked how a person can tell if a relationship has truly run its course. “You’ll feel stagnant in the relationship,” she said. “You’ll feel numb, like been there, done that. You’ll feel like there’s nothing more to give.”            

Bartlett said that some charts show that an individual just isn’t cut out for marriage. “Some charts reveal that marriage isn’t necessarily right for that person and they’d be better off living alone or having a series of relationships,” she said.           

This, De Jaeger said, can be a hard thing for some people to accept. “It’s not always easy to understand that not everyone is cut out for marriage,” he said. “If people focus in an obsessive compulsive way on a marriage and neglect other virtues, opportunities for growth, they may miss a lot in life. There really is so much more than just a marriage in life.”           

Stein said an astrologer might find that two people are just not compatible, but it’s difficult to make them believe it. “You can give them assistance on what problems are ahead, but some things are not reconcilable,” he said. “If two charts have a lot stacked against them, you can give them advice, but it’s probably not going to do a lot of good even if they follow it.”      

Learning this while going through or following a divorce can take away some of the guilt people often feel, Stein said. “Sometimes people break up and it’s no one’s fault,” he said. “They’re not bad people. It just happens. They’re not a failure.”            

Astrology is about cycles, Stein said. Unless we do something to change our behavior patterns, we are likely to repeat them.  “We tend to repeat the same things over and over again until something breaks us out of that box,” he said. “You can’t step out of your own shoes and look at things objectively. The benefit of an astrologer is that they can help the person see things more objectively. Sometimes all it takes is a second pair of eyes.”  

Stephanie Obley worked for several years as an award-winning journalist in Kansas, Florida and Utah, covering everything from crime to the environment. She now lives in South Carolina with her family and writes freelance articles.