Stress Relief: Refueling after the Split

    Divorce is an ending, but it is also a beginning. The separation process can be an exhausting one, and finding oneself suddenly solo sometimes feels a bit  lonely, perhaps physically and emotionally draining. Are you running on empty? Here are 15 simple tips for refueling!    

1. Create a “Fun-To-Do" list of three items, each delightful. Do all three this month.     
2. Now, make a "Not-to-Do" list of three non-essential tasks you may skip.     
3. Find something in your home that is broken. Fix it or schedule repair.     
4. Keep a jar of bubbles in your desk. Use them.     
5. Go to the library or surf the web for new topics you’re curious about.     
6. Tell one friend a secret, long-term goal. Ask him/her to gently remind you in three months.    
7. Count your blessings, literally. (Bonus: This is also a great way to fall asleep.)         
8. Start your day with a smile. Open a joke book.
9. Play with a loved one. Do something unexpected, impulsive, or both.         
10. Ask one person a day, whom you wouldn’t normally ask, how  they are doing. Listen to their reply.     
11. Plan a play-date with three or four same-sex pals.     
12. Buy something in a color you love, but that you wouldn’t normally choose.     
13. Plan three ‘beautification’ projects that can each be done in one day. (e.g. paint a room, organize a closet, highlight your hair.)     
14. Shake up your exercise routine: Take a class, change your walking route.     
15. Choose a person or charity you care about, and find a way to help.