Are You Just Angry all the Time?

    Anger has turned into an epidemic in our world today. It is crucial for us  to take a step back and realize the enormity of the danger we are  facing, not only from external expressions of anger, but from the anger we each carry within. Believe it or not, anger is a choice we make. 

There are various reasons that some would hold onto this poison and refuse to let it go. For starters, many become addicted to anger. Anger gives a false sense of power and strength. When a person is addicted to anger, they are really becoming addicted to the temporary sense of power, and strength they receive. A false sense of decisiveness is also created. It becomes easier to take action (though the action is almost always off base).
 
However, the rush an individual gets from anger is counterfeit, a substitute for real strength. After the anger passes, and the consequences of the anger set in, the person usually feels weak and depleted. Often there is considerable regret for words spoken or action taken rashly. Real strength includes the ability to refuse the false rush anger brings us, to have the power to see the entire situation for what it really is and respond with clarity and compassion. 

When anger subsides a person can see the larger picture and has available many ways of handling a situation that they do not have when under they are filled with rage. Others wish to hold onto their anger until they can get some kind of revenge. One of the lies anger tells us is that revenge is sweet, and we’ll feel good once we get it. Actually the opposite happens. Revenge doesn’t hurt the person we are angry with. It hurts us. Our wish for revenge boils inside and poisons our own lives in many ways. 

Dr. Deepak Chopra has said “The most common and direct cause of illness is anger.” The anger is toxic for us and this poison spreads to all aspects of our body and minds. Why not decide to let go of your anger and find another way to respond now? 



Dr Brenda Shoshanna, speaker, divorce mediator and author, is a relationship expert. Some of her books include, "The Anger Diet (30 Days to Stress Free Living)" and"Save Your Relationship (21 Basic Laws of Successful Relationships)." Learn more about her at: http://www.brendashoshanna.com. Contact at: topspeaker@yahoo.com.