Everyone Wins Mediation: Relationship Mediation Can Help

    The Relationship and Divorce Mediation Clinic is an introduction to a relationship mediation program, which I developed. All individuals, relationships and organizations naturally seek harmony and balance. When conflict arises, it is often a means to establish a new balance. The old way of interacting was not providing what it did once before. Change and growth were needed. In order to expedite this, conflict can arise.

There are many factors, which cause a relationship to become out of balance. Once the problem has been detected, there are simple ways to restore the harmony. First we must understand what caused the disruption and then we can see how to put it right again. This program includes a deeper look at both the causes of satisfaction and well being and the basic causes of conflict. We learn both how to prevent conflict from arising and how to deal with it once it does. Each article will include a specific activity or exercise to help you learn how to mediate your relationship.

In order to mediate, we must take steps to build self-respect and healthy communication. We must also learn how to handle conflict in a constructive, fair and vital way. As specific steps are taken we learn how to build a blueprint for constructive relationships that are based upon balance, good will and well being for all concerned. This creates a situation where everyone can thrive and win.    

Relationships are a powerful factor in contributing to an individual’s well being, or the opposite. When a person feels needed, acknowledged and respected, it is easy for them to be resourceful and relate with compassion and clarity. On the other hand, relationships, which are unhealthy, are a source of difficulties and obstacles. Troubled relationships generate conflict, anger, resentment and all kinds of difficulties. Knowing both how to build healthy relationships and how to mediate conflict maturely is crucial for a healthy life.  


RELATIONSHIP BALANCING                        

Relationship Balancing is the natural flow of energy, support and inspiration between individuals who interact with one another. When this flow is balanced and mutual, (like ying and yang), individuals operate at their maximum level, able to fully tap their potential and creativity. Natural synchronicity appears and unexpected resources and support become available. When this flow is blocked or otherwise out of balance, an energy drain occurs, causing individuals to become depressed, apathetic, resentful and destructive, often entering into conflict with one another.            

ACTIVITY: Envisioning a Balanced Relationship.          
Write down your image or vision of a balanced relationship, including your basic needs and wants. Don’t hold yourself back. Include all the factors you consider important in contributing to your well being and to the well being of others there. This vision will be different for different individuals. Do not be afraid to find what is truly central for you.


Dr Brenda Shoshanna, speaker, divorce mediator and author, is a relationship expert. Some of her books include, "The Anger Diet (30 Days to Stress Free Living)" and"Save Your Relationship (21 Basic Laws of Successful Relationships)." Learn more about her at: http://www.brendashoshanna.com. Contact at: topspeaker@yahoo.com.