Solution Lady: Think Before You Consider Divorce

Fast forward to 15 years from now, when your kids are getting increasingly independent, you still take some vacations together, but now the kids don’t really want to hang out with the parents, and while you still talk to your spouse, things have changed. Not that you don’t love each other anymore, but you don’t feel the same as you did five years ago. You start taking some vacations apart, because it's ok to do so, and while on vacation, you may notice a few things that you never noticed before, someone attractive that appeals to you. 

You come back, and continue your life, drive the kids here and there, talk to your spouse because they’re still your best friend and you make love.  

A few years down the road, something happens and your spouse doesn’t seem to want you as much, doesn’t talk as much, and is distant. No more Sunday breakfasts, the kids are gone half the time anyway and you start doing your own thing.  Someone at work seems increasingly attractive to you and you start to enjoy it, but you keep it to yourself. You go home as usual and say nothing as usual and don’t make love anymore.   

One day your spouse comes home and tells you that they want to separate. They move out and leave you all alone. The negotiation process is hard, and stressful and you wonder what the hell just happened. Now you’re alone and going online for something to do because the kids are gone, your spouse is gone, and so are most of your friends. You don’t know what to do for Christmas because you’ve been spending the last 20 years or so with your family and you are miserable, in debt and alone.