After Spouse's Affair, Tips to Cope

Retrovaille- (Retro-vi) "means lifeline and rhymes with apple pie" A program for couples with serious problems who are disillusioned, separated and/or on the brink of divorce. You'll be helped by couples who have also "been to the brink" — who have experienced serious problems including affairs — but who have worked their way back to each other. This program (85 prcent successful when both partners work at it) teaches simple techniques of communication and exercises to work on forgiveness, healing, and restoration of trust. The program begins with a weekend and includes 12 follow-up meetings over three months. These are not spiritual retreats, sensitivity groups, seminars or social gatherings — there are no counselors involved and you don't have to say anything in front of anyone else. Couples discuss the topics and practice the skills in private. Blank-envelope-donation system. Open to couples of all faiths and to the non-religious. To find a program in your area: 800-470-2230
http://www.retrouvaille.org/

The Third Option
Couples can either divorce, stay miserably married, or chose a third option — get help. Led by Pat Ennis, MSW, this ongoing marriage enrichment/marriage crisis group program uses a drop-in format, skill building and sharing by couples that have overcome great difficulties. A self-contained manual & videos make the program easy to implement in your church or community. For couples or individuals at any stage from engaged to long-married seeking enrichment or divorce prevention. Call: 315-472-6728
E-mail: pat@thethirdoption.com

The Healing Heart
Affair Recovery Forum -- for the betrayed partner.
www.cosa-recovery.org

New Life Partners
A Christian online resource and support group for women whose lives have been impacted by husbands or loved ones caught in the web of pornography and/or sexual addiction.
www.newlifepartners.org

Dr. Don-David Lusterman
Information about Dr. Lusterman’s books and useful links.
www.drlusterman.com

Dr. Shirley Glass
The late Dr. Glass’ Web site includes a number of informative articles about infidelity.
www.shirleyglass.com

The National Registry of Marriage Friendly Therapists 
http://www.marriagefriendlytherapists.com


Photo by: John Edwards 2008

Laurie S. Moison (Hall) has written for newspapers in Vermont, New Hampshire, Delaware, and Washington, D. C. Author of four books, including "An Affair of the Mind," she has lectured nationally on sexuality, forgiveness, ethics and spirituality. She can be reached at lhall@together.net.