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Inside Infidelity: Business Travel and Affairs

Inside Infidelity: Business Travel and Affairs

Infidelity: How Cheating Husbands Use Business Travel to Hide Their Affairs


    Business travel often provides a cheating husband with the perfect cover for his extramarital affair. There's nothing like a business trip, real or fictitious, to account for a large block of time. Most husbands who are guilty of infidelity have no qualms about using business travel to facilitate, enhance, or camouflage their affairs. An out-of-town trip can allow a cheating husband the luxury of conducting his affair in a location that's far from the sight of prying eyes. In many cases, his company may unknowingly be picking up part or all of the tab.

If you suspect your husband of infidelity, don't discount business travel as one of the methods he may employ in an attempt to hide his affair. Below are some of the tactics a cheating husband might use: 

1. Bogus Business Trips
Is your husband traveling more frequently than before? A cheating husband whose job requires frequent travel can easily invent a business trip that doesn't exist.. It's the tactic most frequently used to cover a vacation with his mistress.

Sandy's Story: Sandy's husband Bob told her he had to spend a week at the company's West coast office. But he led everyone at the office to believe that he was taking a week's vacation with his wife. Bob's carefully constructed cover story fell apart when Sandy ran into the wife of one of Bob's co-workers who asked Sandy how she enjoyed her vacation in Hawaii last month.

2. Padding His Trip.
Are your husband's business trips lasting longer than usual? Sometimes a cheating husband will tack on an extra day or two before or after a legitimate business trip so he can spend the extra time with his mistress, or so he can indulge in a local fling.

Jeanne's Story: From conversations Jeanne overheard at her husband's company picnic, it became clear that the convention Dan recently attended was only three days long, not five. Caught off guard, when Jeanne questioned him about the discrepancy in time, Dan could offer no valid explanation for why he returned home from the convention two days later than everyone else. Her suspicions now aroused, Jeanne hire a private investigator, and Dan's extramarital affair was soon exposed.

3. A Home Away from Home.
Do you know where your husband is staying when he's out of town? Or do you automatically assume you'll be able to reach him by cell phone, or at his hotel? If your cheating husband has a mistress who lives in a city where he travels frequently for business, he may opt to stay at her home instead of a hotel. 

Brenda's Story: Brenda had no clue this was the case with Harvey until their teenage son was involved in a car accident. Unable to get her husband on his cell phone, Brenda tried reaching him at the Radisson where he usually stayed when he was in Boston, only to be told he wasn't registered there. Nor was Harvey registered at any other hotel in the Boston area. A frantic call to Harvey's job revealed where Harvey was. Sandy was told that Harvey usually stayed at the home of an old college classmate when he was servicing the Boston accounts. The college classmate turned out to be an ex-girlfriend, who was now divorced. 

4. Travel for Two but Not with You.
Are you no longer asked to accompany your husband on his business trips? Does he refuse to have you drop him off at the airport, or pick him up when he returns? It could be because he has a travelling companion he doesn't want you to see.

Lynette's Story: Tyrone told Lynette he'd catch a cab home from the airport since he was returning on a late night flight. Even though he discouraged Lynette from coming to the airport to pick him up, she decided to surprise him and be there to meet him, anyway. The surprise was on Lynette when she saw Tyrone leaving the plane in the company of a woman she had never seen before. Not wanting to jump to conclusions, Lynette followed Tyrone and the other woman at a discreet distance. Their body language and the snatches of conversation she managed to hear, confirmed that other woman was not just someone Tyrone happened to meet on the plane. Lynette confronted them when they reached the baggage claim area and caused quite a scene.

 Infidelity expert Ruth Houston is the founder of www.InfidelityAdvice.com and the author of "Is He Cheating on You? - 829 Telltale Signs," which lists practically every known sign of infidelity.  For more information, visit Ruth's Web site or contact her InsideInfidelity@gmail.com.

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