Hello My Name Is "Bill" And I Am A Man-Child

Hello My name is Lanbo and I am a man-child.  The first step to recovery is admitting I have a problem. 

I used to keep my man child in the basement behind the washer , nobody ever looks there. When you see me I seem like a nice young man always pleasant kind, will do anything to help someone out. Every one says I'm one of the nicest guys they know.  

But when I get home my wife has to deal with the man child.
 
Wife:  "We need to make a dentist appt. for our son."

Man-child:  "O.K, that sounds like a good idea" ( now when you say WE you mean YOU are going to make the appt. right?)

Wife: "Could you call and make the appt.?"

Man-child:  "Umm, I think that it would be better if you called. (they will ask me questions  like when would you like to bring him or is this a good time) I will probably be working when they want to have the appt.  So it would be better if you made it."

Wife:  "Could you call and at least make the appt?"

Man-child:  "No, you better make it" (I will do something wrong if i do it).   Now I know that it is just as hard (or easy) for me to do things as it is for my wife .

But I hide behind my child part I get my wife to do everything.  This includes, taking our son to anything and or bringing him back, paying bills , doing most of the grocery shopping, coming up with an idea of what we should do tomorrow, mowing grass( if I'm hiding really hard). 

For those of you that live with or have lived with a man child, I would like to say I'm sorry we should of grown up a long time ago, but somehow we skipped that part and used you like a drug. Now you are the one that is worn down and can't take anymore.  

So I am looking for any ideas on how I can get rid of my man child syndrome. I know that it should be easy. when something needs done just do it.  Don't worry if it is right or wrong, just do it .  If its wrong, then try something else next time.   It's o.k. to fail sometimes.  But I can't seem to get myself to believe in myself enough.   So to my wife, or stbx (soon to be ex), I'm sorry ( I know you know that,  but I just have to keep saying it)   Any ideas would be appreciated and yes I am seeing a therapist though my progress seems to be going so slow.


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