divorce360.com | Solution Lady: Raising your Kids after Divorce

Want to raise good kids? Here are five tips to help when you're in the middle of divorce or not.

1. Provide your child with what they need in order to grow according to age and/or awareness.
Your child(ren) need you for different reasons as they mature. At the very beginning, they need you to provide the basic needs food, safety, and shelter. Then, they need you to discover what love and belonging is and they learn that by being exposed to loving relationships, which may also include friends, teammates, and neighbors. All along, they also need you to help them develop their self-esteem. And finally, they need to so that they can self-actualize and become all they can be. So how about it, what can you provide your children so that their needs can be met?

2. Treat your children with respect and dignity.
Yes, your children will need guidance along the way. Yes, they’ll need discipline and structure so that they can survive in the world that they live in. And while you provide them with what they need in order to grow strong roots, it will be also important to treat them with respect and dignity, because this is also what they’ll need to know when they become adults.

3. Expose them only to things, people and places which will nurture their growth.
What activities do your children seem most passionate about? What pastimes do they seem to get so caught up in that they lose track of time? What places leave them feeling energized about life? What type of people do you children seem to be connecting with? Being aware of these things about your children along the way, and exposing them to these people, places and things will nurture their growth.

4. Develop a parent code of conduct for yourself.
When you became a parent, although you may not have realized it at conception time, you signed on for life. Yes, your code of conduct as a parent will change as your children grow and as you learn more about your role. Some of these questions will be helpful to write your code of conduct. What are your requirements as a parent? What are your needs and your desires concerning parenting? What will you expect from yourself and determine as being so important that they make up your code of conduct. Like a code of ethics, these are intentions that you will live up to, while you’re parenting your children.

5. Develop a vision statement for parenting your child.
A vision statement is sometimes called a picture of your company in the future but it’s so much more than that. Your vision statement is your inspiration, the framework for all your strategic planning. Now apply this concept to your parenting approach. It will completely revolutionize how you parent your children.

Linda G. Robert M.A., M.Ed., is known as The Solution Lady for personal, self-care, wellness and life solutions. She's worked in the mental health field and education field for several years as well as in law enforcement. Find out more about her at www.lindarobert.ca. Check out her newest booklet at http://www.myarticles.thesolutionlady.com/index.html.

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