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Sexcetera: Divorced Not Slutty


Sexcetera: Divorced Not Slutty


Dating after Divorce: How Do You Attract Men without Appearing Slutty?


By MCCLATCHY-TRIBUNE INFORMATION SERVICES


Q: I'm in my mid-30s and recently divorced. I'm ready to begin dating but am a bit appalled by the slutty attire I see worn by many younger women. I'd like to think I'm still attractive to men, but I don't want to feel foolish. I also don't want to appear dowdy and out of style. Any suggestions?

Steve: Let's go to an expert. In this case, Sophia Loren, who once observed: "Sex appeal is 50 percent what you've got and 50 percent what people think you've got." I always thought the sexiest women were the ones who had a bit of mystery about them, not the ones who let it all hang out.


Mia: Most men will take simple elegance over slutty any day. Just ask them. They usually prefer women in jeans and T-shirts and just a little makeup, not really dolled up. Anyway, you should just wear what you're comfortable in. It's not a competition. 

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Steve (not his real name) is 50-something and has been married to his second wife for 20 years. Mia (not her real name) is a 20-something single immersed in the Center City dating scene. If you want answers to your romantic troubles, e-mail them at S&M@phillynews.com or write: S&M, c/o Daily News, Box 7788, Philadelphia, Pa. 19101. 

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