Should You Stop Having Sex?

    When we think of one taking a vow of celibacy, images of clergymen and women are usually the first things that come to mind. But scantily-clad pop stars who've French kissed Madonna? Not so much. According to reports, music icon Britney Spears had been placed on a six-month "sex ban" by parents Jaime and Lynn Spears who feared their daughter's not-so-great taste in men might lead to another breakdown. 

"Jaime and Lynne feel she's so close to cracking the big time that they don't want anything to get in her way," a friend told "Now." Roll your eyes if you must but Ma and Pa Spears might be onto something. Sure, sex can be incredible, but it can also be the giant, panting, red elephant sitting at the dinner table. 

Eliminating sex from the equation for a few months after a breakdown (whether it be of a marriage or otherwise) might serve as a great way to ease a bit of the pressure and spend a little more time getting to know someone which is great, especially if that someone is you. 


10 SEXY REASONS IT'S GREAT TO TAKE A BREAK:

1. You're worth far too much than to sneak home in last night's clothes, wondering what that acrobatic person's last name was. 

2. Imagine taking a little longer to get to know someone before you drop your knickers and avoiding that, "Gee, if I knew this last week, I would not have slept with you," feeling.   

3. Contrary to popular belief, sex with someone new does not cure past heartaches. Better to give that heart time to heal before you let someone else in your bed. 

4. Yes, sex is yummy but flirtations and sexual tension can be utterly delicious. Enjoy them a while! 

5. You can wear your comfy cotton undies on dates and your date will be none the wiser. 

6. There is something to be said about totally selfish self love. Take yourself on dates, wear sexy unmentionables (for your eyes only) and, at the end of the evening, if so inclined, get to know yourself a little better. 

7. STD's Just Love Casual Sex. 

8. You know that pile of clothes in your bedroom that you keep meaning to pick up and wash? Yeah, you don't have to do that just yet. 

9. Finding new ways to get excited and be intimate with yourself or someone new can be incredible. Cooking, dancing, painting, talking, exercising, the possibilities are endless. Get to know your body, your likes and dislikes, things that turn you on and off and heighten your senses in other ways for a while.  

10. When it does happen, it will be because you really, really want it to. Now, that's sexy.   

How long have you gone without sex? And what did you like -- or not -- about it? 

Photo by: Random J

Brenda Della Casa is the internationally published author of Cinderella Was a Liar (www.cinderellawasaliar.com) and has interviewed thousands of men and women on the topic of sex and love for her book, articles and a variety of relationship shows for which she helped cast.  Her site, Walking Barefoot, can be seen at www.strollwithoutshoes.com and the Cinderella blog can be seen at www.cinderellawasaliar.org