Making Lemonade: Baby Boomers and Divorce

     I have been living proof that getting a divorce and starting over again is not such a bad thing. It’s different than when we were teens, or in our 20’s or 30’s; and because most of the Baby Boomers are divorced, it can be very challenging for both men and women alike. 

Men who have been in a marriage for a long time and now are back dating don’t know how to do it because things have changed so drastically.  Women are choosing career and are single more or less by choice. Sad but true: these days there are no rules, no road map and little guidance. That’s why there are so many life coaches, matchmakers and therapists getting into transitional therapy techniques. 

Older daters now are setting their own rules in life just as they are setting their own rules on aging, creating the way they want to live their lives, and the way they are spending their money – they are basically setting the rules in the dating culture as well. The Baby Boomers are the re-inventing generation, re-discovering themselves and the way they raise their family, after divorce. 

I believe boomers are changing the way they date, and the way they attract a mate. It’s all about getting really clear about what we want to bring into our lives, making a list and then letting go. Like placing an order in a restaurant, once the order is placed you sit and wait for the food to arrive. You don’t change or confuse the order – you place it and let it go…and wait to be served a wonderful meal. 

If we took the desperation and fear out of dating and life in general as a Baby Boomer, and just went on with our lives – knowing the right person will come once we’re clear about what we want (and don’t want)….magic can, and WILL happen, because we’re open to it.  



Jodi Seidler is the founder of the single parent site MakingLemonade.com and the author of "55 Things Every Divorcing Mom Should Know!" Her advice has also made it to TV talk shows, such as: "Inside Edition"and "Men are From Mars, Women are from Venus." Her e-mail is jodi@makinglemonade.com.