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Get A Life....And A New Relationship


Get A Life....And A New Relationship


Three Ways To Get Over It And Start Over


By TINA TESSINA

    For a while after a relationship ends, you may not feel like considering a new relationship, which is probably good. Jumping right from one relationship to another usually doesn’t work. A relationship that follows too quickly is called a ‘rebound’ relationship because it’s often a bad choice. Because you haven’t had enough time to process your feelings, or to learn from your mistakes, your judgment will be off.  Once you have had some time to recover, however, the following tips will help you to find a successful new love.

1. Get a life.
Even before you’re ready to risk a new relationship, you can begin to get out and do things that interest you. Make your life as fun and social as you can without a relationship. Create a social network by joining groups who are doing things that interest you. If your life is full of activities you really enjoy, you’ll be more successful at finding a successful relationship.
 
2. Look for friends.
Looking for love is a big waste of time – single’s activities, online dating sites and singles bars are all riddled with problems, and take you in the wrong direction. Now that you’ve developed a life full of social connections, seek to make friends. You’ll get to know all kinds of people, and out of these people someone will soon stand out, and you’ll have the advantage of already knowing each other before you decide you want to date.


3. Pay attention.
Meeting your new love by making friends who share the same interests gives you a great opportunity to observe the character of the person before you declare your interest. 

Tina Tessina, Ph.D., has been a licensed California psychotherapist for more than 30 years. She has authored more than 11 books, including "Money, Sex and Kids"; “The Commuter Marriage: Keeping your Relationship Close While you’re Far Apart”; "How to Be a Couple and Still Be Free"; "The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again"; and, “It Ends with You: Grow Up and Grow Out of Dysfunction.”  Tina can be reached at tina@tinatessina.com.




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