Feng Shui: Correcting Relationship Area

Q: I’ve been divorced for six months and am not remotely interested in another romantic relationship at this point. Should I be concerned that the relationship area of my house is missing and if so, how can I correct it?  

A: In the practice of Feng Shui, Relationship includes intimate relationships and partnerships.The most important of those is our relationship to self. Regardless of the desire to engage in a romance, all relationships — romantic or otherwise — stem from the way we feel about ourselves and whether we honor the contracts we make with ourselves.

For example, if we repeatedly encounter people who don’t respect our needs and boundaries, the first question to investigate is whether we respect ourselves and consider our needs important. If we always put personal needs last and simply accept what’s left-over as our lot-in-life we are sending the message that we are unimportant and not worth acknowledging.

If others don’t respect our boundaries, have we been clear in acknowledging our right to privacy, opinions and space of our own? External relationships act as a mirror or what’s going on internally. After divorce or a prolonged relationship, if often takes a while to get reacquainted with “who we are,” and it’s a good practice to spend some time taking care or ourselves physically, spiritually and emotionally. 

If your home is missing this Relationshiip area (the back, right corner of the house), it can be strengthened by attending to the relationship sector in each room of the house and/or making adjustments outside the house in that area. Anything symbolic of nurturing can work: planting flowers, creating a comfort-zone for relaxing, or placing statuary that suggests supportive relationships. 

Pairs of things suggest not only partnership with another, but also the honoring of the different aspects of our own personalities. Adjustments such as these act as a reminder of our intention to take care or ourselves.     


Nancy Wesson offers seminars in Feng Shui, thriving after divorce and dispute resolution. She teaches at the University of Texas, Texas State and Austin Board of Realtors. She can be reached at nwesson@focusonspace.com. Her Web site is www.focusonspace.com.