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What should I do with my wedding ring now that we are divorcing?  


I don't want to just throw it away, and I can't imagine saving it for my daughter now. Any ideas?

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Answers for "What should I do with my wedding ring now that we are divorcing?"  (11) (You must be logged in to answer)
I plan to have the center stone in mine reset just as soon as possible.  I don't know yet what I'll do with the smaller ones, or with the setting.  I don't know your situation or what kind of relationship your daughter has with your ex, but she may want  the ring as a keepsake at some point.  I only know my daughter doesn't want anything from her father.  You've had a lot invested in a relationship that is now over, it's time to move on and turn in a new direction.
by anne6856   1 Post
Posted on 3/18/2008 12:42 AM


I would have it reset into a necklace or another ring setting.  IF you don't have any attachment to it then sell it and put the money into an investment account for your daughter.
by Barkley   912 Posts
Posted on 3/17/2008 10:28 PM


I WASN'T ALLOWED TO DO THE THINGS I DID BEFORE WE MET(SOFTBALL, RACQUETBALL, FISHING ETC.). SO I DECIDED TO TRY SOMETHING THAT WOULD GIVE ME A LITTLE CHUCKLE EVERY TIME I SAW THE OLD RING. I TOOK THE RING TO WORK (IN A DIE SHOP) AND MELTED THE RING DOWN AND HAMMERED IT INTO A BLADE FOR MY FAVORITE SPINNERBAIT. I CAUGHT A 6 POUND LARGEMOUTH BASS ON IT AND PROUDLY DISPLAY THE LURE IN MY TROPHY BASS'S MOUTH ON THE WALL IN MY GAME ROOM. IT MAKES A GREAT STORY TO TELL NEW GUESTS AND I GET MUCH MORE ENJOYMENT OUT OF IT NOW THAN I EVER DID WHEN I WAS MARRIED.
by bigdaddy   1 Post
Posted on 3/17/2008 8:42 PM


I am saving the engagement ring for my son, it is a nice diamond and they could have it reset,
I am keeping my wedding ring, this still means alot to me and I can't part with it. I don't wear it any longer, but it still represents a big part of my life, yes a part that is over but still important. I keep in my treasure box along with other important momentos from my past.
by dumpedafter30years   66 Posts
Posted on 3/17/2008 7:12 PM


I've recently stopped wearing mine - after 14 years and I do miss wearing one. I decided to take out the center diamond for a pendant for me to wear now. I think it will pack the same punch as giving it back b/c it's win/win. If it's noticed then it shows freedom. i'm planning on offering it to my son when it's time for him to propose. It's there if he wants it. Untill then I'm enjoying having a nice piece of jewlry.
by kwt   12 Posts
Posted on 3/17/2008 2:27 PM


I think I would keep it for your daughter. It may not mean anything for you now and maybe it doesn't mean anything for her till she grows older but it is something that was given by his father when in love with you and I think it still keeps some significance to her... if you sell it or alter it in any way, it cannot be reversed... keep it till she is 18 and then let her decide what she wants to do with that ring... keep it or sell it and use the money for her college... whatever it is ... involve her in the decision...
by Tato   417 Posts
Posted on 3/17/2008 12:03 PM


SELL IT NOW OR PUT IT UP AND USE IT FOR SOME RAINY DAY CASH. PERSONALLY, I GAVE MINE BACK. GIVING IT BACK PACKED A BIG PUNCH TO MY SOON TO BE EX'S EGO.
by LEIGH   6 Posts
Posted on 3/17/2008 12:00 PM


i WOULD TAKE IT AND MELT IT DOWN REMOVING THE STONES AND MAKE A PIECE THAT YOU CAN GIVE YOUR CHILD AT AGE 16.
by BrandiBC   4 Posts
Posted on 3/17/2008 11:30 AM


Another idea is to have the stones removed, the gold melted and make an entirely new piece for your daughter such as a pendant or earings.
by itmustbeme   422 Posts
Posted on 3/17/2008 10:16 AM


Why hold on to a memory that is gone. Your ring represents your bond in marriage. That bond is over. Holding on to it is like trying to save a marriage after it is already over.

 

Many jewelry stores take trade-ins. Maybe you can buy yourself a special piece and start a new memory in honor of your new found independence.

 

Good luck to you and your daughter.

by Linny   152 Posts
Posted on 3/17/2008 10:15 AM


First, if you daughter has a special connection to the ring then keep it.  Otherwise.  As I write this Gold is trading at $1,023 per ounce, sell it.  However, do so after the divorce is final so it is not included in the assets of the marriage.
by Joshua Shulman   
Posted on 3/17/2008 10:02 AM




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