taking too long 

My (hopefully) STBX has done nothing to help get divorced. he's the one who walked out and moved in with the OW. He expects me to take care of everything just like I did when we were together. Ummm...i don't think so! When he walked out he said he didn't like that I turned into his mother. Which I had to do because he refused to be a responsible adult. So why in the hell would I continue to take care of him after all this? I'm not!
i'm taking care of me and our son. The problem is that because he refuses to man up and take care of anything and I refuse to do it all myself the whole thing is getting dragged out. He almost managed to get divorced without our custody or finances getting settled first. I fought that one like a crazy woman. i'll be damned if he's getting the divorce he wants without the finances and custody being resolved!
As a result of his flat out refusal to contribute his half to the mortgages and other joint debt we are drowning in a Tsunami of debt exacerbated by late fees, attorney fees, and jacked up finance charges. So he took the "easy" way out again by filing for bankruptcy. That has only delayed the divorce further as marital financial issues are put on hold until the bankruptcy is completed. 
We've lost everything as a result. I'm hoping to move to another state and start over as I finally have a job offer after a year of being unemployed. He'll probably fight that which will add to the delay. I can't even deal with that until the bankruptcy is over. I'm starting to think that at this rate my 2 year old will be in college  before I get divorced.
you aren't the only one. Good luck!

Never give up. I'm in the same boat as far as my husband not wanting the divorce and finding every way to stall. He says he doesn't want the divorce yet he won't work on reconciliation. I feel he is just afraid of being alone. He moved out Feb 2008, I filed March 2009. August 2008 I told him I wanted a divorce. He has stalled all year and gave me bones for reconciling yet won't work on anything in the relationship. Confusing. Exactly what he wants to do to me so I don't move forward. I also can't pay the mortgage and we have credit cards into the $40,000 with divorce added. We have no assets, only debt. Don't know how it is all going to work out but I do know this for sure, this has got to end. I live in Texas and divorces aren't suppose to drag on forever. That is what I am told anyway. Will find out after Dec. 8th. Next date for settlement. In TX the court decides if we can't. I also don't eat much anymore, can't sleep, and make it through the day but only to not be able to sleep. Nice new slender figure though.  :-) I've been doing one thing for myself a day aside from daily routines and not get upset if I don't get all the daily housework done. The kids are fed, showered, homework is done, and they make it to school on time. Housework can wait a little bit. I started a facebook account and found some friends from high school and military days and chat with them on there. Compete with the facebook games. My Sunday school group found me on there. Networking and not staying isolated has helped me alot while I play this waiting game. I joined a divorce care group this past sunday at a local church. divorcecare.com will help you find one in your area. There are a lot of articles on here that help too. Lisa Cannon has great blogs and advice on here.
I feel like I can't get on with my life until this divorce is final but I keep planning towards my new life ahead.
Stay strong Lees and know it will be over and life is going to be so much better. Hugs to you.

dont give it up, you will eventally get there and then the healing will really began. good luck