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Divorce Act 1 Final scene 

My Divorce is final as of 9:30 am this morning.  The day started at 3 when M came in saying her tummy hurt.  The rain started soon after and lulled us back to sleep. Had most lovely dream interrupted by the sound of the alarm and my usual morning routine.  The pouring rain made it hard to get up but I needed to be at the courthouse by 9 am. Got the dogs and cats fed did a bit of exercise and tried to get M up and ready for school.  She gave me an example of what the teen years will be like...I'll need good meds. 

The rain kept falling but it suited my mood. We finally got on the road and I dropped M off at school with a smile even.  Made it to the court house with time to spare but found out it built on the rabbit warren concept and I was nowhere near where I actually needed to be. 

I made it to the court with 1 minute to spar.  Lucky for me the judge was late. I was the second case on the docket.  I answered the attorney's questions but when she got to the 'are you pregnant' question I blurted out 'good heaven's no!'. The judge had a good chuckle over that.  He said 'well that was emphatic!"  Then he granted the divorce and signed the decree.  All over in less than 25 minutes. I was in and out in less than an hour. J wasn't even in town....

Cried abit last night and this morning but mostly I'm relieved that this limbo is over.  There is still a part of me that hurts because I couldn't sustain this relationship for the sake of my child but I KNOW that she'll be better off with 2 or even 1 happy parent rather than 2 unhappy ones.

by Keth  196 Posts 

Posted on 10/22/2009 7:08 PM
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It surprises me how we remember important dates, like the day of our divorce.  It is a major change in how we live our lives, and it should be as change is the law of life.  All our experience, good and bad, can be valuable in our decision making plans.  Success is never a result, but always a goal.  We ask for the impossible, end up with the best possible, and usually don't even get that.  But we still keep trying to get to that special place.  We are of a special generation, our parents and grandparents never had the problems associated with modern life.  The difficulties we endured, strengthen the mind as labour does the body.  I think that's why grandmother's are so smart.  I believe that doors open if we have a desire to move forward.  Your M is a pleasure to you, dogs, cats, you have got a lot of motivation to make your routine fresh and new.  I have 2 fat dachshunds and they are my kids who demand my attention all the time.  Our life is what our thoughts make it, so it's good for us to think of the good things, dwelling on the bad heads nowhere.  It's been a rough year for me, I know for you too, but brighter days are ahead.  You will be fine in time, I know as I am gaining a new identity and it is my outlook on life which is so enriching.  There is life after divorce, may we never be associated with that word again.
by kevinwo   844 Posts
Posted on 10/23/2009 1:09 AM
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I'm glad to hear you got through it.  My attorney told me she also ends the questioning with the pregnancy question.  She said that it helps lighten the mood, as many are already in tears.

So here's to your new life Keth.  I know it's going to be rocky at times, but I have to trust that it will be the life you are meant to have.

*Hugs*
by Kitty7470   2945 Posts
Posted on 10/22/2009 9:08 PM
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