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You missed it….I hope YOU are HAPPY. 

My X said his affairs were a result of him not being “happy”. HE wants HIM to be happy.

 

So……  

Last night we built a tent…..and you missed it.  

Last night we had ice cream and many silly stories….and you missed it.  

Last night our son had his first babysitting job, he got paid, he was SO excited….and you missed it.  

Last night the kids had their fist volunteer night at the humane society….and you missed it.  

And that is just last night.    

 

So much has happened in the last year….  

Bedtime kisses

Homework projects

Football

Softball

Smiles

Hugs

Broken hearts

Prom

Camping

Swim

Drivers license

First attempts at water skiing

First attempts at driving a boat

GoKarts

Fishing

Catching Frogs

Waterparks

Biking

Kids tears

Kids pain

Kids anger

Illness  

…..and you have missed it all, I sure hope YOU are finally HAPPY.

by eclectic  268 Posts 

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First time in a long time that I have read something so simple yet so true.  Also the first time in a while that I shed a few tears at work!  Today has been a "feeling lonely morning", so thank you for reminding me of all that I have to be thankful for.  He may be gone from our family, but I am not missing a single thing!
by let_me_be09   21 Posts
Posted on 6/16/2009 10:47 AM
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Those were basically my arguements when I said I didn't want the divorce. When you are the dad on the flip side of things it is easily as tough. For instance. My kids went on their first horse back rides with the wife the other day and had a great time. We never did that stuff before and it would have been awesome to have shared that with them. In her defense, I took the kids to go see that movie "Up" and she said afterwards that she would have liked to have gone. I told her I would have liked her to have been there. Choices affect us all even when we are notthe ones making the .choices
by Heartbrokepicker   418 Posts
Posted on 6/16/2009 10:39 AM
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Beautiful.
by HurtInColorado   1139 Posts
Posted on 6/16/2009 10:34 AM
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My heart aches when I am trying to do things for them that a father should do...like assemble a tent and set up the make shift campground in the backyard. I am afraid of the football, broke two nails (painfull), I could see my sons frustration, I can't help it I am a girl, a girlie girl.

How do you teach a boy to be a man when you are not one? and don't have the experience.

Yeah, compression shorts and "the cup"...well that was interesting. I am learning too much about the male anatomy!

What really bothers me is I miss things too when he has them on the occasional weekend.....I never wanted to miss a thing because I know they are only going to be 12 years and 126 days for a moment.
by eclectic   268 Posts
Posted on 6/16/2009 10:32 AM
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as sad as it is, i loved this post.   your post said it all....perfectly.
by paula1   12662 Posts
Posted on 6/16/2009 10:07 AM
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At some point your ex may live with a lot of regret for missing all this, not to mention your child resenting him for missing it.
by lifeinpurgatory   1830 Posts
Posted on 6/16/2009 9:58 AM
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So many firsts, I hope you are happy, he can go be jolly by himself, sounds like you are doing well.
by Jamesalone   2778 Posts
Posted on 6/16/2009 8:34 AM
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If he's any kind of father, then he is missing that stuff. And believe me when you are the father that doesn't want a divorce, you miss it even more.
by Heartbrokepicker   418 Posts
Posted on 6/16/2009 8:29 AM
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