Thank you for those words. You are right, what I did was wrong, but what he did was wrong also. My intent wasnot to rub anything into anyone's face, but to put forth another side to the story. I hate reading all the time that anyone who cheats once WILL do it again. I'm sure there are many more like me who just reached out to fill a void my husband did not.

what am i going to do about visitation he doesnt want to bring them back in so we can have ours with the kids and pick them up at his original time .. we are following the decree he dont want too??? what am i to say and do?

hi, welcome to d360. let me know if i can help with anything. there are a bunch of things you can do to get started here. here's what i usually do. every day i log on to the site to see what's new. so... 1. i log on and come here, to the MyStuff page. i can quickly check to see if anyone has made a comment on my questions or my blogs from this page. and i'll click back to comment on their comment. 2. from there i check my scroll (at the top of this page), to see what my friends have been doing. the more friends you have, the more activity in your scroll. it helps. 3. then i change my status...up there by your name. maybe i'm drinking coffee or about to get lunch or whatever. as soon i update my status, it hits my friends scroll...so they know too. 4. then i'll maybe add a new question. scroll up there to the Advice area on this page and click Add New. when you do that, your question gets posted onto the home page of the site and onto the community home page of the site at the same time. so every member can see it, read it and make a comment. 5. later, i'll add a new blog...scroll up to blog and click Add New. blogs are usually longer and more detailed. some members write about what is happening in the divorce or life after divorce or whatever. the advice area is really about questions that you want answered today...right now. 6. after that i'll start reading some questions. just click on the big Community Tab at the top of site and start reading. i really try to answer as honestly as i can, i know that everyone here would really like some answer to their questions. So if you see someone without an answer, try to see if you can help. you know, your perpsective is helpful. 7. then i'll move over to the Blogs, that's just a few tabs to the left of the Community tab. i'll read some blogs and post my comments too. 8. Then i'll go and write on some of my friends walls. and maybe even some new members walls too. The wall (that's what this area is), is really a semi-private area for members to make personal notes or jokes etc.