Obviously I don't have the whole story and without it, I guess I will tend to react from my own situation...Believe me, you can go back and read my blogs but you do not want to do it the way my ex did...He was a real Jackass...I got married even younger than you did...Did I understand what all marriage entailed? No...but I had made a commitment and I followed through with it...and would have continued to do that...Many couples don't stay "in love" and marriage takes real work...Have you tried communicating with your wife?

I read what you posted on the question, but I don't understand. You just don't feel in love anymore? What exactly do you mean? Love is a committment. You make a decision each day to love this person. Is there something you aren't saying? You said you needed to get married to stay in this country, and it;s now been 3.5 years. Congrats. You have now been here long enough to get your citizenship, courtesy of being married to her. Is this why you want out? Did you marry her for citizenship? I am not accusing, I am trying to figure this out. YOu say she's a sweetheart, she has 80% of what you want, which, by the way, is pretty great, since no one will be 100% as I'm sure you aren't for her, either. So if this is true, why would you want to leave? Divorce is miserable and it really is not easy out there to find someone. YOu were in college, where you should have been meeting dozens of women, but you couldn't find one there and had to go online, where usually that's for working people who aren't around a lot of singles their age. If you had this much trouble before, it won't be easier now. I don't understand where you are coming from. Any input would help. I don't have the whole story here.

I justv wrote a book on the the group wall... may be i should ahve put it on here.. i am still getting used to how to get around here.... how do i find diff people in differnt stages of divorce or just in general, or perhaps by geo location, so i can see who is near me ?.. i wanna connect with peolpe and use my inbox for exchanging messages... how do i do that? thanks again .. hope ur day is going great everyone..