valentina - thanks again. I just posted on Paula's wall about how I was re-reading Men/Mars - Women/Venus. One of the comments I had forgotten was how us men can die a slow death without someone to love and care for. That describes me - not that I want to rush into anything but it is very confusing when you no longer have your family. It is totally crushing to a man's spirit and purpose. Thus, the validation from the women on this site like yourself is so crucial to a man's recovery. That is all we are really looking for in the end for us folks from Mars.

Thank you for your post, I imagine a calming soothing voice saying it. I appreciate it!

Valentina Tried to send you an email - damn system got me in some crazy loop. Anyway, thank you (and the other ladies) so much for your post. You don't know how good that makes me feel hearing all these great comments from women on the site. That is one of the reasons I am more than willing to marry again - there are women out there who are not like my ex and I now realize that! Interesting your observation on her writing skills or lack thereof. That is actually a pretty coherent message from her. Her speaking skills are similar - all over the board. Used to think it was "cute" when I was "in love" now it is annoying. Funny thing is she works the phones for business development and is actually very good at that kind of communication. Everything else kind of sucks