Hi Typhanee - I am a relationship counselor and divorce coach here on D360. I didn't see your original post, but I gather from the comments that you are married, unhappy in your marriage, having an affair with another man and asking for advice as to what to do. The most important thing for you to do is to get help. Telling you to stop the affair is a waste of time. If you are in love with this man you won't stop the affair regardless. You need help to figure out where to go from here. Please don't think you can do this alone. You need the help of an uninvolved adult who has training - a counselor - to help you figure out if your relationship with your husband is over. You also need a counselor to help you determine why you looked outside your primary relationship for fulfillment. It is imperative that you find a counselor whom you trust and can confide in to navigate this complex waters. Preferably a female so there is no chance of personal involvement. Good luck in sorting this out and if I missed the mark because you deleted your post I am sorry. If you want to chat, I am here.

You're welcome. I do try to be constructive in my advice, even if the subject matter touches a nerve. I was cheated on, and I do try to offer constructive advice from that end and perspective. A lot of people have been burned, and horribly, by their spouses/ex spouses on this site, and it does touch a raw nerve with them. I've seen the responses get ugly...even uglier than what you got. I try not to attack...it isn't constructive when people who are truly conflicted are seeking advice. One other piece of advice...if you feel you can't blog here or it's too painful b/c of the other people's responses, do yourself a favor and keep blogging or journaling about this, if not here, then somewhere else. Do it for you. It is cathartic. Having support from other people is nice, but ultimately this is for you. Don't keep it all bottled up...vent, even if it's to yourself, but get it out on paper (or computer screen, as it were). It does help.

typhanee, don't get discouraged. There's a lot of people here that were hurt by cheating spouses, and their pain is going to come thru in their responses. There's a lot more reasons for getting divorced or getting drawn into an emotional affair than just copping out on problems or wanting something exciting. In your original post you said you married young, so did I. A lot of growing and changing happens in your 20's - it may very well be that the two of you have nothing in common anymore. Stay strong, you're not a bad person.