Hi tricia, It looks like we are in the same boat--as with anthonyto--my wife is emotionally killing me. Instead of a blackberry, it's her facebook account and secret email accounts. During her masters classes she has met single guys, of whom, one is her constant "buddy". I have voiced my dislike and want to stop, but she refuses. Like you, counseling didn't really help, since it was only me wanting it. Not to mention the ANGER in towards me wanting the emotional affair to stop, I just don't get it. If you figure out what to do, please let me know. I hate being in this boat.

Tricia Im a retired police officer and 100 % faithful to my wife. I just found out that she was having an emotional affair and it was stopped in its tracks by the mans wife who found a card my wife gave him. She would go to lunch with this guy and call him as soon as she left the house for work and at nights and weekends. I did confront her but she said they were only friends. I called my wife on her cell phone after she did'nt return home after work and she accidently hit the send button and I heard her conversation with the guy. She first lied and said it was someone else but after i confronted the guy, he admitted it was him. My wife swears on our kids nothing happened, but I can't seem to forgive her as much as I try. My wife wants me to talk to this guys wife to help them so that she does not go through with the divorce. I am so confused and don't know where to go from here. In your case, you have alot to do. Im now a private investigator and thats why I know my wife did'nt have a physical afair, but an emotional one. It most likly would have gone that route. My advise to you is hire an investigator, and a good experienced one. Go out of town or at least say you are with family. His guard will be down and the truth will come out. If you want, you can e-mail me and I can give you advise and maybe you can give me some too. I have kids and thats what is keeping me here now. This was all turned on me also, like it was all my fault. Life is to short to be unhappy and I know it, but just can't walk away from these kids. Take Care and hang in there. Anthony

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