We sound soo much alike it is scary! MY STBX has new girlfriends but at the same time doesn't let me go. He comes and goes and plays with my head. I am devestated that he really likes someone else yet he was just here Friday night. I can't let go..I am dying. My daughter sees me crying nd it upsets her and I just can't stop. How could I let someone do this to me?

I just got on this site and came across a comment you left on another subject. I hope your living situation works out for you and your kids, alot of what you say is what goes through my head. My wife still lives with me and announced she was leaving last week, been together 16 years, I have never felt so much pain and regret for every waking moment, hang in, be strong

Thank you for your kind words and I know I am not alone with the stinkin Facebook. While I am on it still, I have defriended my ex (although my boyfriend is still a friend on the board with my ex cuz he wants to see waht he is up to since they used to be best friends a few years ago). He said so many hurtful things on that board that not only I read, but also our 20 year old son read like "Feeling free after 21 years of torture". Isnt' that nice? I was a very good wife, supporter (financial and emotionally) and everything else a man could want. I kept myself a size 0 so I would always look great on his arm. I shared his interests, I didn't spend money like the skank he's got now who according to him "spends it faster than he can make it". Well too bad. She can't work cuz she isn't mentally strong enough. I am fortunate in many ways though. I was smart enough to get a good atty right away after he first mentioned divorce, which got me the advantage. Pulled the rug right out from under him. THen he backed waaayy off saying he didn't want a divorce, but at the same time, he wouldn't give up this woman. I couldn't live like that and then the pix were posted right after Memorial Day on her "crazy in love" myspace page. That was it man. He deserves everything he gets. I do have a great boyfriend who supports me through this whole thing and realizes that I have really bad days some days and is just there to tell me it is going to be okay. Like 2 weeks ago when I finally sat down to make a budget. Had been avoiding that. I make good money, but the ex took 50% of all my retirement after 25 years of working, so I have to keep contributing big time now. I just cried when I saw how financially I was so back to where I was when I was 20 years old. Struggling once again. And it sucks. I resent that the most. How he financially fucked me so bad. Illinois is not a kind state in divorce if you are a spouse that was done wrong and honestly, I just wanted it over with. I was done. He had hurt me too bad. I soo want to tell him that and tell her that too, but the few times I have see