I know, it is a very scary experience - but you have this site to help you deal with anything you are afraid of, and I'm here to help you with legal back up - so just keep in mind at even your worst times, you have about 15,000 people backing you up. Hell, that's better than verizon!

Hey SF, I had a similar counselor experience with my X when we were on our first seperation. And yes that implies there was a second lol. He gave us the book that i recomended to you and my X read it like I did. When he asked on our second visit, she responded that the book was ok until she realized it was written by a man and that she couldn't relate with his perspective. Then the counselor at the end of that visit told us that he did not want to waste his or our time in counseling and that we should consider seperating. I was torn between throwing up in his office or knocking him out. He then later had a followup meeting with my X and talked about his own divorce and how he is much better off that he and his x have a better relationship now. Sad thing he was under the yellow pages as marital counselor when he should have been listed as divorce specialist. I almost filed a complaint with his board but ohwell water under the bridge now.

It did indeedy, spendidly. I got some major concerns addressed, more tests ordered (ugh) but necessary. Next up in two weeks, oye - there goes my tax refund, lol