Hahaha..thanks Steveo for the ego boost. Never really thought of myself that way. Lost 60 lbs due to all this emotional up and down. I don't even know how I concentrate sometimes... I gotta ask, if you are willing to share, or, I don't know how this works with the in box thing, but why did she seek out another? Did she give you any reasons? I can understand the temptation now that I am going through these issues because when someone gives you something that you are lacking in a marriage (and I'm not talking about sex, I mean things like plain ol' good ol' fashion talking with the opposite sex and you both connect), it's hard not to want to embrace that kind of attention. Did you guys just stop talking? My husband and I went almost the whole summer without talking. I mean, out of about 4 months, we probably had 10 conversations, and I use the word conversation lightly.

christmas is not the same wnen your alone.been married for seventeen years this is the first christmas alone .dont get me wrong i have all the kids with me but its not the same.what can i do to shake the christmas blues?

I agree- if someone is out for you just for sex, that is no relationship. It's about who you are inside.