Oh yes, Divorce Coach is a title this site uses. My counseling practice centers on relationship issues and specificly deals with victims of trauma, domestic violence, abuse, neglect and tries to keep couples together. If you had come to me with your issues long ago you would have received the help you need. It is never too late to begin.

Soooo... you are back. The woman who would be King. My guess is that you aren't even female. Here's a reminder of what you said you believed a year ago..."Posted by smartnsexy 11/8/08: I am NOT looking for support by my posts and my blog, I am trying to show people that divorce is not always the best answer. Breaking up a family over infidelity is not always the best choice. I hate to see a marriage of 30 years break up over sex. It is trivial compared to a lifetime of togetherness." If you aren't looking for support... what are you doing here? Getting attention? Revenge?

I am probably going to be the only person who will "see" your side of the situation. I have been the OW for almost 2 years. I am also married. People who throw out the term "homewrecker" should know that the "home" was "wrecked" long before we got there, or there wouldn't have been any cheating on anyone's part. People will say why get into an affair with a married man? What about his wife? Well, what about her? She knows that he is unfaithful. She has to know. And I am pretty sure the other wives know this as well. I never for one minute think that they are stupid or unknowing. I happen to give my MM wife credit. I think she is a smart woman but for some reason always turns a blind eye to his infidelities. There have been many before me and I am sure once we are over I won't be the last. That is not to say that we are not in love because we are. We are just in different places in our lives that prohibit us from being together. Yes, I know all about vows and oaths and promising to forsake all others. But sometimes life is not that simple. You have to understand that people will always judge others. Is what we are doing right? Of course not! It is wrong on every level, however until someone walks a day in our shoes, they will never know the situations we are in. That being said, most will come back with- Then you should leave your husband, or He should leave his wife for you so on and so forth. But once again life is not black and white. My parents are devout Catholics and my mother knows of my affair. She is adamently against it and tells me to go to Church and pray to God for guidance (And I have) but on the other hand my mother knows me. And she knows that I don't go into things without looking first. She has not accepted my behavior but she has accepted that I am only human and as such can and will make mistakes. I don't claim to be perfect and I don't claim to be right. What I claim is this: I am only human. I am flawed. But above all else I know my God loves me and will forgive my sins. I was taught that in every Sunday school class I went to and eve