I am looking for the strenght that people have to just pick up and go. I wrote to you because of your story and struggle. No alcohol involved, but my wife and the male friend she was hanging around is what stays in my mind, although she denies anything more happening. Im a retired detective, but unlike friends of mine I don't drink much, and I am not controlling and feel that might be where I went wrong. I don't believe in affairs and honesty is the best policy. We are both hard workers and have all that we want, but the relationship went in two different directions and I feel and I am made to feel as if its my fault. I have kids that I truley love with all my heart and can't see just walking out on them. Im trapped and don't know where to go. I talked to a counseler and after she said "how does that make you feel " 20 times in a 25 minute session, I walked out saying how all these people just want to here how you feel just to make them selves feel better, but collect money while at it. I can go to a bar and buy someone a drink and do the same thing and catch a buzz, but like I said I don't really drink. See I feel better just writting to you, and you havent said " how does that make you feel "once. anyway I joined this website because the people are real and going through the same thing as me. Thanks for your time and any advise would be appreciated. Anthony

Hey, slow down. You're young and free now. Love that baby, and get over the physical wants. A love will come, but just don't let him come too quick. Get it? Flirting, leads to getting it to quick. And in my opinion, well it burns out just as quick. Take your time! Like any of us, time waits for no one, here today gone tomorrow. Never settle in your life from now on. This is your world Hey! Make arrangements to jump out of a perfectly good airplane. I am serious, It helps bring all of the reality, into perspective. Living for the moment, but, still taking a calculated risk.

I know if I find someone now, they will most-likely just be a rebound. It's hard for me not to hook it up with someone for some reason. How do I become more into being single? Is it okay to flirt? I'm confused. I don't want to confuse others by making them think I'm flirting with them :(