Dilemma! I have been married for over 8 years. I have been with my husband for almost 20 years and we have 2 children. My husband cheated on me for over 4 years with the same woman he tried to get me to be friends with (she was his manager for his music career). She was in our life (unwelcomed) for about 2 years after they stopped seeing eachother. We separated for about 9 months and he lived with her in that time (I thought he was staying with his dad) while I stayed with my parents in another state with our 2 children. We still communicated and had long conversations and eventually we got back together. But before we got back together, she called me and told me the whole truth about their relationship. I really wanted him back more than ever since I knew about their relationship. But I think I jumped back into it way too fast. We have been struggling for over 3 years now. I feel like I cant trust him and I dont feel the same love I once did for him. He has cried and wants me to stay with him. I would have left about 3 times now, just because I cant get over the fact he cheated on me for that long and then continued the relationship over the phone for the last 3 years. He did have an affair prior to us getting married and had a child with her and that child has been adopted by another man. Besides that point, his father is a compulsive cheater and womanizer. What to do with this relationship. HELP!!!!!!!