Hey, responding to your post about how I would feel if the shoe were on the other foot and I was taking his money. I honestly don't know because that was not the situation. And honestly, also, if I knew he wasn't going to piss it away on his skanky girlfriend and her kids, I wouldn't begrudge him the money. But the woman he left me for doesn't work (mental illness), has 4 kids by 3 different men and he convinced me to loan her $1500 to get her divorce. OK - that's also why I'm pissed. I did take my $750 out of our savings when we divided it cuz I never wanted to see or deal with this woman again and she is still very much in the picture. There are alot of reasons besides just giving him the money. He has pissed through so much money that I worked so hard to earn and save. That man had the world by the balls when he was with me and now he is struggling (from what our son says) and I hope he continues to struggle and learn some really hard lessons. I mostly hate how I am set back 10 years by this divorce through no fault of my own. My ex went through a mid-life crisis, got in touch with an old high school pot head girlfriend who was in a "horrible third marriage with a sex addict" and my ex was the ONLY one who could save her. She hit him at a vulnerable time and yes, it is mostly his fault because he broke our marital vows, not her. She broke her own. I suppose it shouldn't matter what he does with it, but it does to me. And I have a right to feel that way. Maybe I'm just stupid, I don't know. But I would at least rather have him put it away and keep it in retirement like we had planned. I walked away with no cash but 1/2 our savings account, and he walked away with almost every security we (or I should say I) put away throughout 21 years of marriage. I got to keep my life insurance, 1/2 my 401k, 1/2 my pension and my variable annuity. Otherwise, he got to take everything else. Yes I am pissed and I don't know how I would feel if the shoe were on the other foot cuz it's not.

I loved your response about dating. I had to laugh though. Here you are professing amazing thoughts and talking about morality and your relationship with God, wishing Blessings and such. Then I see your name. It just made me chuckle. Your response was quite nice. Don't you wish people would focus on their relationships with Christ and get back to the way we should be living? It just saddens me. I just wanted to comment. God Bless you too.

hello. haven't heard from you or seen a post in awhile. i hope you are ok? i am usually doing homework while i checkup here at night. let me know if you want to talk. ann