Thanks for listening, but also for helping me, pokey40. Have a nice day and weekend :)

Okay, I got you. Slightly not understanding "what about wife's choice?" in response to my choice to end any potential extra-marital relationship for good. My choice was to keep the marriage together, Keylogger keeps people together? No one but I could make that happen, certainly no one could force me. Daily wife behavior ramped up further (sorry about how that sounds) couldn't win my heart. Did it make sense, we might have unnecessarily broken up? All the pain, 3 kids, & we really love each other the most? Because if pushed, I don't take to being controlled. I really care and apologize for things, but that would be tricky. She may try so hard to show I'm bad & not let go of it. I wouldn't live on eggshells or probation in my/our home. That's a screwed up family at that point. After 2 years of crap (which must have been awful), keylogger puts, as you say "power back in your hands." Did you mean back? We're you in charge previously? Some power would seem precise. Retribution power. Not win him over and keep him power - because you're holding a secret. Living in limbo not giving complete trust again, which is needed to renew a marriage. If you're giving one chance, maybe you could really give it, not sort of. You purchased negative power (like a gun) even if you only check it sometimes. Control isn't the same as love. I do understand your desire to cover your back-side. Do these help in court? They're admissible? Or it just gives you a head start? I'm truly sorry for your pain and would hate to ever my wife through that. Luckily it didn't come to that. I fear I'd defend with equal volume, pride and not bow out of a fight. I'll always love them both, but my wife comes first. I worry I'd have had a poor response and we'd have gotten divorced. I wanted to share a loyal husband's feelings. It's almost like a device being invented to catch her thoughts, then me convicting her. It seems simpler and better to give complete trust again. Perhaps it's not possible. Key logger seems to break your trust further, ahead of time. Thanks for li

Hi pokey40, I have no idea how much stress you may be under, and I wish you the best. I wonder if you could comment to me about the keylogger. I recovered on my own after a month on communications with an old flame (my "rescuer" in when I lost my parents simultaneously in High School). Completely over. No sex, she is 1000's (literally) miles away - thankfully, too. Had a keylogger been put on me, I'd have lost the chance for my own decision (one that strengthened our mariage), and my wife could have lost for sure one of the most decent guys around (regardless of my admission to you!). My life, I'm serious -life- most everything I later became I feel is due to this wonderful woman whom I knew before I lost my parents, then dated after H.S. before joining the military. But it's over. Any thoughts on my situation were say, 2 weeks into "I'll always love you" being sent both directions, my keylogger was looked at at my wife thinks she knows something? Quite frankly I'd be more upset than she could attempt, or it would be closely equal. I stay faithful out of integrity and certainly love is there, but it's more my personal duty. Pretend I must stay, or take my decision making from me, and I'm thinking good try. If possible, please don't get too upset over my pride. It has held our marriage together through thick and thin, and I keep the love and extras very much alive. I almost did wrong and in some ways did - but it's definitely over.