Ma'am,I can't thank you enough for your response to me about being too trusting and too romantic.I worked very hard after my first wife left me and our children.I devoured everything about self improvement.In fact I actually embarked on that journey three years before my wife left.We were married for 10 yrs. Having custody of our children(3 & 1),I did everything to be the best I could for me and my children. Now 26 years later,I'm the one iniating a divorce in my second marriage 9 1/2 yrs.My stbx has a severe personality disorder.Diagnoised by three different psycharitrist.My stbx is highly functioning but does not get it.Yes I still love her immensely but can no longer stand by a see her and her children continue a sprial of self destruction over and over.It hurts me so much. I know that I will heal and recover but I do want a successful relationship.I do not want to end up hurt again.I especially like your response because that is indeed how I feel.If I was to temper my trust and romance,I'm not being true to myself or the other person.That would hurt me just as much. In my distant past close friends told they were in awe of how I put myself out there.They were amazed because they said it was like I walked through the fires of hell and come through unscathed. I think that has enabled my level of success in my fields of endevour.I was very frightened hearing this from a close woman friend.She is very concerned for me based upon my stbx's propensity to violence against me. She painted a very evil picture of women in general.If in fact I am so blind to the wiles of women how could I ever hope to succeed? Your comments empower me to have hope.My stbx and 3 stepchildren are still in my home making my life as unbearable as possible.The systematic destruction of my home wounds me greatly.I am hanging in there but it is taking a toll on me.I expect them to move any day now,it is quite immenent.At least then I will have the sanctuary of my home.I will have peace restored and begin the restoration of my home environment and then begin the healing process in earnest.

Pixy thank you for the comment you left on my blog.I want to tell you also that it was my house that this all happened at, and yes I was fixing to tell him to leave but at the same time I was selling a piece of equiptment and I needed the money he was offering. And also, his statement was a shock, and I usually do walk away from statements like that, I just don't want them to happen anymore. I have told the friend that had brought him to the house that I didn't want him around unless that friend was with him and after the equiptment is gone, he will not be welcome. But I do thank you for your comment. I wish you well=0)

the problem with that is not everyone is going to just ignore him - so I end up having to step in regardless - I'm actually urging D360 to take stronger action against him at this point due to his flagrant abuse of the site faking member's accounts to futher harass them. I'd like to see him no longer an issue to deal with....or ignore.