yeah we do sound like we have a lot in common. i just turned 51 this month. my divorce was final april 17. each day seems to be so difficult. i hope things are going well with you.

thank you for the info. i hope that my stbx doesn't show except by attorney. i hurt every time i see him. he is also starting to realize what he has done. he hasn't turned his discovery papers and my attorney is about to get a court order to make him. he has run up a terrific amount of debt and is paying for everything at his mistress's rental house. he claims not to be able to afford to help me. i hope you get good news. i know your pain. my husband left me after almost 10 years for her. i never saw it coming either. it has been 9 months and he keeps delaying everything so i think i will hurt for a long time.

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