Hello I'm not separated or divorced .But I feel like getting a divorce and it is something that goes through my head almost everyday. I've been with my wife for almost 12 years. We have 3 children, 13,7,6. It's been difficult lately,si...nce may. I found out around the first of the year that my wife had a vivid affair with my Brother.(Died-04-21-2008) There's other things going on on top of that. been unemployed since feb-2008. been feeeling depressed and worthless. My wife has grown in her life and I have seem to have fallen ,in our carriers and we have seem to have grown apart. I tryed to forgive her for what happened in the past but inside I can't let it go. Also she is quiet controlling with every aspect of my life. Recently I have found someone special that I have trusted. I can tell this person anything and respect there output. I trust them with anything and everything maybe it was wrong but it grew into an Physical attration and i would go to her when I felt like i need someone to talk to and she would be there to comfort me. We knew this was wrong and have since then killed that part of our relationship and are now only really good friends. But now I feel like i want to save My marriage in ways but other days I want to have that freedom and that special thing that I had with that other person. I know it sounds a little confusing I know it is. I was wondering if i could get some input from other people who have been betrayed in there relationship?

Hi, welcome to d360. I thought I would send you this quicky 'get started' email to help you figure out the site.

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Thanks, Paula