Hi NaturesPath - I read your most recent post and your story. I would like to caution you regarding your husband's wish to reconcile. I don't doubt that he means his words right now... but you two have a history dating back 35 years that is riddled with disappointment, abuse and addiction. It is possible for him to change, but be sure that you understand that it is a long hard road for both of you. Whatever addictions he has pursued, violence, gambling, alcohol, women... they are all being used to self medicate so he doesn't have to feel his feelings. He is in a dangerous place right now. You have been his security and enabler all his adult life while he acted out. Now he has to grow up and be an adult all on his own. A very tough road. He will have to face himself for the first time in his life. Be watchful. It is possible, but be careful. He will be on his best behavior for a while, but once he gets comfortable again that is when you must be on your guard. Good luck. Make sure YOU get some counseling from someone who has experience dealing with addiction and dependency issues. You are going to need the help.

Hi, I appreciate your advice. Your life is almost a mirror image of mine. I've had a husband who has been critical of me for 23 years and now he has had enough of me. I have no idea how this is going to turn out. I know my husband has no idea I am going to ask for alimony. Right now I am just scared I don't know where I will live and even if I get alimony I don't think I will be able to afford health insurance. Someone commented to me what kind of man attacks a woman when she is at her weakest. Please keep in touch. I really appreciate your support since we are on similar paths. Hope you are well.

Thank you for the sweet post~ working on the positive~ I need all the encouragement I can get~