Hi, Mimi. Yes, you do deserve more than him. Nobody deserves cruelty. We marry for love and support, not for what he's giving you. Take action, be strong, and make the life that you deserve. We'll be here to help all we can. Welcome to D360. This is a great place to make friends, and find advice, help, and support. You can relax here; you're among friends. If there's anything I can do to help you find your way around, just drop me a line.

When I got married it was forever. This isn't how wanted or to be truly honest, how I want things to go now. But I can't do this anymore. I've tried over the last 16 years to make this work (we dated for 7 years before getting married). But the marriage has been terrible. My husband can be very cruel. You never know what will set him off. He can shut his feelings off like they are connected to a light switch. I have been willing to stick with it through all of the crap, the lying, the calling me names, the trying to make me feel quilty for his actions, the porn (including stuff that may not be legal), the plain indifference. I just can't take it anymore. I deserve better than he can give.