Hey Mike, I thought it better that I respond to your question here. My husband has a sex addiction. He has said for years that he didn't think he was good enough for me. I thought we both just had bad self-esteem and we needed to work on that. I wanted him to show me how much he loved me but he would tell me all the time. He wanted me to tell him and I would show him all the time. It was literally a mars/venus thing. He would never talk about how he felt with me. Sometimes he would have problems with his addiction and knew it would hurt me. Of course it would hurt me, they were acts that went against our marriage even if he had difficulty controlling himself. Well, a woman at work flirted with him over the phone. He found it really easy to talk to her. Over 2 months they became "best friends". 4 months later they are "soul mates". He moved out, lied and said he needed to work on the addiction. We found out about the affair. By the time I knew the extent of everything that was going on they were talking about their "future" together. She lives 400 miles away and he is there right now helping her pack to move to our little town. I don't know if this is mid-life crisis or what but he has spent 100's of dollars on her and I had to file for divorce to protect me and my girls financially. They don't have legal separation in TX. I never wanted it to get this far, but we should have a final court date within a month. Learn to communicate. Get a really good counselor that will help you guys "listen". Both men and women have that problem. Learn to be transparent to one another. I pray that you and your wife will figure it all out. All my best.

Hi, welcome to d360. I thought I would send you this quicky 'get started' email to help you figure out the site.

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Thanks, Paula