why there is no punishment for those who does not respect their family and just destroy their family and leave their children and wife suffer. Five months after divorce still I could not understand why it happened and how he could choose other woman's happiness over his son's and wife's happiness. my son gets home 3 hours before me , and those 3 hours is very difficult for both of us I am always worried if he is ok and he is also sad because he is alone at home. I can not get baby sitter because I am trying very hard to pay for house and all the expences, the child support I am getting it does not pay even for the milk and bread, I had to get second mortgage to pay him and buy his share, because I did not want our son loses his friends and put him in new environment and I often get home with tears in my eyes, when I see our son is alone at home it just kills me , and I say to myself he has to be here with his son not with that woman. I wonder what is it that is more important than the love for our child.well he is not here , our home is quiet and every night every minute I miss my family and my son needs his family too. But it is too late.I always think if people could get punished for cheating on their wifes and husband, they will think twice about cheating. Poor the children that they suffer for the parents wrong doing. and I think it is time to put stop on these kind of behaviour . I like to start a movement and get people to understand what they are doing it is wrong, our society is sick, there is no respect for our children and family. I need help here please tell me if you could some how connect me to all those people has been in this kind of situation, and they want to join me . Thank you melina

The disrespect for marriage appears to be out of control. It does help to express in words what we are going through and every time I read what someone else is dealing with; I find a new perspective. Some are eerily similar and others different but the pain is the same. I am thankful for this safe place to share our deepest pain. It is difficult to share with just anyone. It simply amazes me how cruel and heartless some people are. It simply amazes me how the sanctity of marriage is so easily violated... There is hope - there is always hope... We have to believe in something... I am glad your son is 10. That means he will be occupying your time at home with you for at least 8-10 more years. I look back and value the time my daughter was at home with me. I really miss her and wish she were little again. Time goes by so fast and they are grown up. Oh yea, if time goes by so fast and our children grow up so quickly - that also means the pain we feel now is going to diminish. I pray your time with your son travels in slow motion. I pray the horrible racing pictures and thoughts in your mind will end soon. May your mind be filled with your now which will soon be your future. I am so sorry for your pain.

I just can not forget her (the other woman)face, 4 mounths after divorce still her face is in my mind I wish I could just erase that from my brain, I wish I could take a medicine to forget what happened, when I found out that they have been together for 2 years and even at work they did it I just colapsed and next day I went to her door she was so rude to me she said hey you marriage is over, she knew he is married she had seen our son's picture on his desk, she knew what she did and said that she will continue, I asked her please leave us alone but she did not care.she is agrand mother I thought sh as a mother and grand mother may understandwhat she is doing is not right .we hav a 10years old boy , he needs his father and the nights she has my husband in her bed , my son needed to tell good night to his father, some night I was crying and even my son was crying, but his father was not there, I could not do anything because over 2 years relationship with my husband she had learned a lot about me and she knew how to play this game and win him. after divorce , I am with my son alone , I do not have any family here and his family they do not talk to me, I am very isolated, I can not trust anybody I just try to protect my son, and it has been long time that I have not been happy in my life I even forget how to smile, I keep all my energy for my son and my work , at night I find myself alone and cry and pray and ask god to give me courage and health to be able to continue to be there for my son.I still love him but It does not help, even my son knows that , I told him to beleive in power of love but I lost it and my love for him was pure. we loved each other we had a very good life together.but it is over.