Hello again madblaque - any luck breaking through his silence yet?

I wish I could help you. I'm on this site since my marriage failed, so don't know if I am a good person to give advice. I can tell you about my experience. It has been that if a man isn't coming to you for sex at least every 3 or 4 days, he's getting it somewhere else. He might be pleasing himself for a few weeks, but longer than that means there's someone else, he's into drugs or addicted to porn. My stbx spent every night with me, I stopped by for lunch with him a few times a week, would drop by his work unannounced from time to time, knew all of his friends and he came home to me. Still, he had someone else and spent enough time at the lawyer to get all of the papers drawn up and signed to present them to me on the day he left. He never said anything until the day he left, but had a new apartment and movers ready. He managed to do this while he was living with me and I had no clue. Some of my friends said that he must be getting it somewhere else, since I complained about not getting any, but I didn't believe them. After all, he had problems with sex. He thought of me as the good one, the madonna, so didn't want to make me dirty with sex. He thought of her as dirty since she was a whore so he could do it with her. Twisted, yes? If I had been a bad person, I might have saved my marriage! Sorry, I don't want that. Anyway, the lack of a sign doesn't mean that he doesn't have someone else on the side. He also might be addicted to porn, which for some men makes it impossible for them to get off with a real woman. Or he might be on drugs, which would interfere. Whatever the reason, there's a problem if he's sleeping on the couch. I know it hurts like hell. You are in my thoughts. ((hugs))

Hi, MBW. Welcome to D360. Glad to see you here. This is a great place to find advice, help, and support. You can relax here; you're among friends. If there's anything I can do to help you find your way around, just drop me a line.