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Very similar situation to mine...My ex was my first, we were together a long time, we have two kids, we continued to sleep together for over a year after we broke up and he had a gf (I know disgusting)...but its just so hard to let go. Give yourself time you will begin to see things for what they are. My ex did the same thing, he would not put the phone away, hell, she even made him sleep with the phone on every night so she could make sure he was not out sneaking around. There is a reason she is paranoid and either she has seen behavior from him that lets her know she isn't a concern or knows that he is a cheater. For a girl to be that paranoid she has seen or heard something. Its sad really and pathetic but I think these girls know what they are getting themselves into. They know what kind of a man they are getting involved with. All I do is laugh. It is funny and to be honest satisfying to know that she and he have to live like that. Thats what he left for, to be hounded constantly by a insecure chick. And before you beat yourself up over cheating with him, if he wouldn't have cheated with you it would have been someone else and she would be paranoid over that situation. I have since cut my situation off and even moved over 1500 miles away, if that is not saying "I don't want him anymore, I don't know what will" and I still am seeing paranoia. Again, nothing we can control, all we can do is laugh!!