Thanks for your comment on my graduation post. I bit my tongue 'til it bled. Then I bit some more. It was my stbx's second affair. I found out, I filed. Otherwise, I'd be a basket case right now. The burning rage will go away eventually, but you gotta live with it for awhile. Good luck! Been there...

I just read your comment to HIC, and just have to know, you sent her a text " keep on being the whore that you are, just leave me alone. I know you have talked to both the girls today. There is no reason for you to f--k with me. Now go suck a d__k for your supper!" Did it work? Did she back off? I'd so wanted to do that same thing with my ex, just go off on him in much the same way, but didn't know if it would actually do any good, or just add fuel to the fire... Just curious, I am thankfully well past all that "was my 1st. ex" but often wondered how the outcome may have been. ; )

if custody is already established, then the fact that your son wants something, isn't enough for a court to change a living situation. He isn't old enough to be listened to by the court and there would have to be what is called a "significant change in circumstance" to warrant custodial change. He'd have to be doing something truly horrible, or being neglected by her for there to be anything you could convince a court with. Best thing, is to work on YOUR acceptance of the situation, so your son can better become adjusted - and maybe both of you would benefit from some counseling if you aren't already in it.