Today after just listening to a song, I really started feeling sad like I'm missing my stbx. I know these emotions is going to come and go and there's no specific time its going to stop all together. I guess because I had put my whole heart into this marriage is one of the main reason this could be happening and I really loved this man. I also understand that once you're married you are now one so I'm very aware this its like loosing apart of me. I just don't want to jump out there prematurely thinking I can go back to him and everything is going to be like I wanted it now. Especially since he's moved in with a woman instead of trying to get himself together. When he calls me which is not that often but the past few times he called for some reasons that same night I had nightmares. This has happen twice. Something in me that holded on to this miserable and unbareable marriage is the very same thing that making me wonder if it will be ok if we got back together. However the rational side of me is saying what if he stops with the women, drugs and hanging out late night how long will it be before he gets mad an call you a Bit** and come charging at you and really hit you just because you burned up the beans or just because you want shut up after he called you those names. I know he haven't seeked any professional help and even then it's not guaranteed. I just have to remember the reasons I left and understand that I know the real him not the one he portarys to everyone on the outside. I also know thats its a matter of time he'll be hitting this new woman infact he's already argueing with her infront of her child and mine and I'm really truly blessed to be out before getting killed or catching AIDS from this man. Prior to leaving I made a conscious decision to leave because I felt like my son didn't need both parents to be dieing from AIDS or 1 dead and the other in jail because I really been considering purchasing a gun to kill my stbx but never went through it because I considered my children. So I left. Let me know if this normal and somethings I

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