A year and 5 months later...... Divorce/judement is still not final. Almost, I hope. Of course I thought this last August when the divroce date was set and here we are still nego judement terms. We're in the "He's not speaking to me at all to let me call you for advice" stage. I have just come to expect him to be nasty so I'm not hurt anymore when he behaves that way. I am still the enemy and its ok now. If thats where he needs to put me so be it. Whatever! He has gone from direct verbal assults to having the kids deliver those now. (Ouch!!)

Hi, welcome to d360. Let me know if I can help with anything at all. I thought I’d send this quicky ‘how-to-get-started’ note and leave it on your wall. I hope it helps you. Here’s what I usually do here. Every day I 1) log on to the site. Simply type in your email and password to get started, then I come here, to the MyStuff/Profile page so I can see if anyone has answered my blog or question. If they have, I click on it and answer them back. 2) Then I check the ‘scroll’..That’s the stuff at the top of this page. It changes every time a friend does something, like post a blog or comment on a question. TRICK: the more friends you have here, the more your ‘scroll’ changes. So make sure to befriend lots of people. 3) Then I usually change my status…that’s up there, on top of this page, by your name. click it and type in whatever you are doing…’getting coffee’ or ‘going to lunch’. When you update that, it notifies all of your friends in their scroll…so they know you are online now. 4) Then I usually add a new question or a new blog post. That’s easy to do…from here look up a little on the page and see the words Blog and Advice. Right next to each one is “add new’. Click that and start typing. Hit submit and your post goes directly to the site home page for everyone to see and read and comment on. Blogs are usually longer and more detailed, while Advice/Answers are usually quick questions you need help on right now. Read some other members to get a feel for it and then start your own blogs and questions! 5) Then I start answering other peoples stuff…I’ll read blogs and post my comments…and I’ll read questions and post my answers to try to help other people. That’s the goal here. All of our opinions and experiences really help. 6) Then I’ll start writing on some of my friends wall…..that’s this area right here. It’s really good for quick questions to one member or personal jokes or a little note. 7) Click the People tab to see what members have something in common with you (based on your tags) and say Hi. Thanks and welcome…paula

2 days ago my husband walked in and drop the bomb that he had tried to filed for divorce that day and was leaving. He filed out the paper on Tuesday, make love to me Tuesday night, said he loved me on Wednesday when I called to say I was thinking of him and loved him, kiss me back when he walked in the door and 5 minutes later said we need to talk. I am in shock and denial.