Joanne. I'm finding that cheaters done seem to feel any need to apologize or show remorse. My stbx hasn't, but with the responses I've received, I'm coming to understand that it's the nature of the beast. I read your "story". The last f**k, then get out of the house is impressive. Excellent exit that you can have as a personal victory. For mine, I presented her a printout of the spreadsheet containing her boss' financial info -alimony, house payment, association dues, mixed with her wages etc. that I found on our pc along with a photo of them arm in arm. She moved out 4 weeks ago. Good luck to you, and thank you for commenting on my post.

thanks for the info. Mine was overseas and married a cute Chinese woman in Feb 2005. He was still coming home between assignments and on his R&R's. I "accidently" found out when he gave me his password to take care of open enrollment for his company. That led me to other areas and finding the marriage license. I was told I couldn't get him for bigamy because I was his legal wife. That she would have to press charges. She didn't know about me. He told her we were divorced in 96. He is now trying to immigrate her to the states. I don't know how much she knows now. I'm getting to long winded. Please let me know what they do to him.

Hi, welcome to d360. Let me know if I can help with anything at all. I thought I’d send this quicky ‘how-to-get-started’ note and leave it on your wall. I hope it helps you. Here’s what I usually do here. Every day I 1) log on to the site. Simply type in your email and password to get started, then I come here, to the MyStuff/Profile page so I can see if anyone has answered my blog or question. If they have, I click on it and answer them back. 2) Then I check the ‘scroll’..That’s the stuff at the top of this page. It changes every time a friend does something, like post a blog or comment on a question. TRICK: the more friends you have here, the more your ‘scroll’ changes. So make sure to befriend lots of people. 3) Then I usually change my status…that’s up there, on top of this page, by your name. click it and type in whatever you are doing…’getting coffee’ or ‘going to lunch’. When you update that, it notifies all of your friends in their scroll…so they know you are online now. 4) Then I usually add a new question or a new blog post. That’s easy to do…from here look up a little on the page and see the words Blog and Advice. Right next to each one is “add new’. Click that and start typing. Hit submit and your post goes directly to the site home page for everyone to see and read and comment on. Blogs are usually longer and more detailed, while Advice/Answers are usually quick questions you need help on right now. Read some other members to get a feel for it and then start your own blogs and questions! 5) Then I start answering other peoples stuff…I’ll read blogs and post my comments…and I’ll read questions and post my answers to try to help other people. That’s the goal here. All of our opinions and experiences really help. 6) Then I’ll start writing on some of my friends wall…..that’s this area right here. It’s really good for quick questions to one member or personal jokes or a little note. 7) Click the People tab to see what members have something in common with you (based on your tags) and say Hi. Thanks and welcome…paula