Hi - I just got your post on my wall. I left you an email earlier that addresses your concerns. Best - Lisa

Hi Jewls. While I am waiting for the email and attachment that is in a format I can open (I am not very techy), I thought I would read through your D360 stuff and get up to speed. I would like you to get a book from the book store. The title is Co-Dependent No More and the author is Melody Beattie. Please take some time to read the chapters... slowly... and do the activities at the end of each chapter in writing. The book will help you to recognize the pattern that has reigned control over you and your marriage. It is a beginning step in a long process of recovery. You can do it. I did. I await your email and attachment. Best - Lisa

Jewls, that is one question I asked many times. Why did I allow this??? Why did I allow the abuse to go on? Why did I stay? I don't let any one else shove me around. The answer? I did what I thought was best. Honestly when I look back now I see so much. He isolated me from family and friends. I had no one. I was afraid. I knew no better. But as "Oprah" says~Now that we know better we will do better. Unless you have been abused you don't understand. I was being abused and would say "I don't know why women stay in abusive marriages?" Welll duh, I needed to look in and see me. I just functioned. Oh my STBex and I had good times. Like they say when it is good it is Oh so good, but when it is bad it is hell. I don't understand why I stayed so long but I did. I'm out now, one of the most painful things I have been through, but I'm out. Please take care of you. Keep me updated.