well i finally got over the stress lol. i did what i needed to do. i got ahold of his card which was sent to the house with our address on it , we still have one joint account so what any mother would do used it to pay attorney and what ever else i could. sounds mean but he left me no choice.i finally found a job just crossing my fingers hoping it lasts , and signed my counterclaim today . so things are looking up so far but i dont have my hopes up never know what can happen it just feels good to actually smile and not worry so much . it feels like a little burden is off my shoulders and have a good friend who has been there for me since all this started..Now if i can just figure out how to rescreen my back porch ill be fine.

hi, welcome to d360. let me know if i can help with anything. there are a bunch of things you can do to get started here. here's what i usually do. every day i log on to the site to see what's new. so... 1. i log on and come here, to the MyStuff page. i can quickly check to see if anyone has made a comment on my questions or my blogs from this page. and i'll click back to comment on their comment. 2. from there i check my scroll (at the top of this page), to see what my friends have been doing. the more friends you have, the more activity in your scroll. it helps. 3. then i change my status...up there by your name. maybe i'm drinking coffee or about to get lunch or whatever. as soon i update my status, it hits my friends scroll...so they know too. 4. then i'll maybe add a new question. scroll up there to the Advice area on this page and click Add New. when you do that, your question gets posted onto the home page of the site and onto the community home page of the site at the same time. so every member can see it, read it and make a comment. 5. later, i'll add a new blog...scroll up to blog and click Add New. blogs are usually longer and more detailed. some members write about what is happening in the divorce or life after divorce or whatever. the advice area is really about questions that you want answered today...right now. 6. after that i'll start reading some questions. just click on the big Community Tab at the top of site and start reading. i really try to answer as honestly as i can, i know that everyone here would really like some answer to their questions. So if you see someone without an answer, try to see if you can help. you know, your perpsective is helpful. 7. then i'll move over to the Blogs, that's just a few tabs to the left of the Community tab. i'll read some blogs and post my comments too. 8. Then i'll go and write on some of my friends walls. and maybe even some new members walls too. The wall (that's what this area is), is really a semi-private area for members to make personal jokes etc.