Yeah it sounds like we have a lot in common. I'm loving life now. I moved away 6 months ago and have already lost 50 pounds. I get to eat what I want now, do what I want to now, go to bed early, sleep late, whatever I want. I only have myself to clean up after. I miss my kids but they are both in college now so even if I had stayed, I would be alone anyway. I'm using this time to work on me for once. If you read my blog, you know my husband married her right after our divorce was final and then began crying about how bad he screwed up and wanted me back. From what I read of your stories, you have already decided what you need to do. His behavior didn't change for 25 years, so it's probably never going to. Is he still seeing the OW while he's telling you he wants you back? That was such a kick in the gut to me. For my ex to still be with her while he was telling me all this, but the alone time gave me plenty of time to realize that I was so much better off without him. One thing I still really wonder about is if "she" has finally realized why I never put up a fight.

i definitely feel your pain. i am married for 25 years and about 19 years ago my husband left me for another woman thinking that the grass was greener on the otherside. well it turned out not to be as green as he thought. the only reason why i took him back was because his father passed away at a wedding on our first date after being seperated. well here we are 25 years later and he is acting up again. i have no proof and he swears up and down that there is no one but i do not trust him and now he is making demands of me or he says he is leaving.

Hi, thanks for your post to my wall...sorry I just saw it. Long story short, our reconciliation didn't work because, unknown to me, he was very involved with someone else. You can't make a reconciliation work if one partner is just going through the motions...so that's my story. Hope things work out better for you.