hi, welcome to d360. let me know if i can help with anything. there are a bunch of things you can do to get started here. here's what i usually do. every day i log on to the site to see what's new. so... 1. i log on and come here, to the MyStuff/Profile page. i can quickly check to see if anyone has made a comment on my questions or my blogs from this page. and i'll click back to comment on their comment. 2. from there i check my scroll (at the top of this page), to see what my friends have been doing. the more friends you have, the more activity in your scroll. it helps. 3. then i change my status...up there by your name. maybe i'm drinking coffee or about to get lunch or whatever. as soon i update my status, it hits my friends scroll...so they know too. 4. then i'll maybe add a new question. scroll up there to the Advice area on this page and click Add New. when you do that, your question gets posted onto the home page of the site and onto the community home page of the site at the same time. so every member can see it, read it and make a comment. 5. later, i'll add a new blog...scroll up to blog and click Add New. blogs are usually longer and more detailed. some members write about what is happening in the divorce or life after divorce or whatever. the advice area is really about questions that you want answered today...right now. 6. after that i'll start reading some questions. just click on the big Community Tab at the top of site and start reading. i really try to answer as honestly as i can, i know that everyone here would really like some answer to their questions. So if you see someone without an answer, try to see if you can help. you know, your perpsective is helpful. 7. then i'll move over to the Blogs, that's just a few tabs to the left of the Community tab. i'll read some blogs and post my comments too. 8. Then i'll go and write on some of my friends walls. and maybe even some new members walls too. The wall (that's what this area is), is really a semi-private area for members to make personal notes/jokes etc.

The decision i made of separation is really taking me to the challenge of my life....all i wanted in this marraige was a good husband who respects me and people i care, not judge me, or compare me with everyone else that he thinks is cause of our problems. 14 years of being together, married for over 12 years, with 2 children to raise. I just wanted the right attention, and the right amount of give and take. I knew there were many other men out there that could've given me this needs, but i chose him because my heart was only beating for him...yeah it's corny..but isn't that what we all feel when we really want to win someone's heart. He got everything from me...and what do i get back all these years? Just the same, repeat "all about me" kind of want and need. Sure we had good times, at least most when we are with his friends and family,but when it comes to my attention, i was not put into number one or at least a priority. I took that okay and just lived with it and enjoy the good times. No matter how much i tell him or make him understand that his family need a real family time too...but he did most things because i ask him to not because it was what he wanted to do first. I just couldn't be with him another day or years to get by to make him see that i wasn't asking for much. Money didn't matter to me..we both had to struggle to have what we want or need...but the love and attention of a normal family from a husband just wasn't enough for me to keep holding on anymore..so i needed to open my eyes and asks myself if i want to spend the rest of my life with a man who just couldn't at least meet me half way...i want happiness too. And i want to raise my children to happy environment, and we can give that in a different way...I know he will always be a good father, and i know that my children respects my decisions, so i will start a new beginning of life with my children and i couldn't say now if there would be new love in my life..i think only time will tell. My focus is on my children, and i am hoping for the good outcome into this separations.